5 Things Your Divorce Lawyer Wants You To Know

Going through a divorce is never easy, but there are steps you can take to make the process a little less stressful. A good divorce lawyer certainly helps, but only if you are willing to follow their advice. Here are five things your divorce lawyer wants you to know that can help make the divorce process go a little more smoothly.

There are no winners in a divorce

If you set out to "win" your divorce case, you are likely setting yourself up for a big disappointment. Divorces get ugly, they bring out the worst in people, and they seldom leave one person feeling that they have "won" anything, especially if children are involved. Be civil, and consider the bigger picture. Your marriage is ending, and it is time to look to the future instead of beating down your ex in an effort to forget the past.

Keep it civilized

This is especially important if there are children involved. Resist the urge to talk badly about your ex, especially in front of the kids. Even if you don't have children to consider, you will accomplish a lot more during your time with your attorney if you can keep a civilized approach to the proceedings instead of using your time with your divorce lawyer to bash your ex.

Don't compare your situation with that of others

Your best friend may have sailed through her divorce and even received hefty alimony and child support payments, but that doesn't mean your divorce will be the same. There are a lot of factors to consider when going through the divorce process, and your attorney will be able to guide you through the best choices for your situation. 

Be honest with your attorney

If you are dishonest about the reasons why your marriage is ending, or if you lie about things you did while married, your attorney can't help you effectively. Going into a divorce with only some of the facts is a bit like trying to solve a jigsaw puzzle with missing pieces. Your attorney can't do an efficient job if you aren't willing to be open and honest about your situation. 

If you feel you have to hide certain aspects of your marriage to protect your ex, don't. Especially in cases of abuse, it is important that your attorney and the divorce court have all the pertinent facts to help make a fair decision in the proceedings.

Be prepared

Make a list of all of your joint belongings, such as your bank accounts, furnishings, and even the bills you pay. This will allow your attorney to help you establish a fair distribution after the marriage has ended.

Let your divorce lawyer help you through the process. If you work with them, they can help make things just a little easier.

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When I was a child and people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always told them I wanted to be a lawyer. I even followed an attorney one day during a school job shadowing experience. I really found the law interesting, and my favorite shows to watch were, and still are, court shows. However, when it came time to choose a major in college, I chose another career path that I now enjoy. However, I still love law and do some legal research on a regular basis just for fun. I decided that it would be a shame to let all of my legal knowledge "go to waste" by not sharing it with others, so I decided to start a blog to share my legal tips on along with some interesting legal cases and stories. I hope you come back often!

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